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Me and my wife are seperated for 2 year .We have twins boys.reson to broke up : coming home late couple times.She is in new york now and i live in phoenix.She has hard time to take care the boys.AND SHE IS ASKING BACK TOGETHER NOW…..
Please I need help to decide….

I want to know if i can transfer my whole divorce case from Phoenix Arizona to the state of Texas. How would i go about doing that and is it legal for me to do that. I have prove my two girls that there mom is never at home. They want to come and live with me. They have so much to tell there mom but she will not listen to her. I want the girls here why they will have a good life and there will be someone here to take care of them all the time, instead right now where they live there grandma takes care of them why there mom goes out every night and gets drunk and the 13 year old daughter stays up and waits for her to get home. what can we do about this?

My husband thinks I am just a nag.

I try to talk to him, and I have tried not saying anything to him at all for over a month. No matter what I have tried my needs are never met.

I’ve written letters, notes, emails, instant messages, etc.

I have to do everything and organize every aspect of our lives. I do not have him to help plan our future or to assist as a partner would do. He is very selfish and thinks only of his needs. I have to think about the entire household, including him, the 2 kids, the 3 dogs, and the small rodent that my daughter keeps.

I have to tell him when the lawn needs to be mowed, when the trash needs to be emptied, when he should brush his teeth. I really mean I have to do EVERYTHING.

It’s disgusting.

He just says he doesn’t care, “whatever”, etc. when I point blank ask for his opinion on something.

All he wants to do is go on the computer. He goes on as soon as he is home from work until 1am. He goes on all day on the weekends if I allow it. (No it’s not porn - he is just a Geek. Into Linux, BSD, Open source Software, etc. and also Politics chats)

I’ve decided I just don’t care anymore. I’m alone and I ought to just get used to it. I’m afraid to leave him. He has gotten violent in the past, and I just don’t trust him. I have a feeling he will not let me go without a major battle.

He already pits the kids against me. Saying things like “mommy doesn’t want you” when I was studying (I was going to college full time and working 30 hours/week). Ugh! Never mind having him support me at that time he was trying to make it impossible for me to succeed.

I long for a real relationship. One where I don’t have to pull answers unwillingly out of someone. I want a normal conversation.

I don’t have any energy left and I just don’t care about his needs anymore. I’m really getting to the point where I don’t like him at all. There is very little love left in me.

God help me. I just don’t know how to communicate with him. He thinks everything I say is invalid, and thinks I am being emotional when I bring up these issues. He calls me “crazy” if I yell at him ever about anything.

God, sometimes you can just take so much and you blow your top! I’ve put up with so much for so long all by myself. It is absolutely normal to get angry when someone hurts you over and over again!

He is so manipulative! I know it. I see it.

Yet I am powerless to do anything about it.

God help me!
I guess I don’t want a divorce, not yet. I still have hope.

He used to be wonderful. We were together for 3 years before our first child. It was right then that things completely changed.

Before our first child he was my partner, my best friend, and my lover. It was never perfect, but it seemed right.

After I became pregnant he had a breakdown. Panic attacks, and literally thought he was dying. I went with him to the hospital and doctor after doctor. Finally, after years (at this point we already had the 2nd child) it was clear that he had anxiety issues.

After that it was never the same. I think because he had felt so powerless when it was happening to him and he leaned on me.

I don’t organize “every aspect” of our lives. Just the essentials…Dr.’s, bill paying, housework, etc.

Also, our wonderful son has an autism spectrum disorder - it’s very hard to manage by myself.

I wish he would wake up. I really need him. I miss my husband.

I’m probably bitter. I’m worn out, and lost.
I see where it looks like I control everything because I have to tell him to brush his teeth… You see he is afraid to brush his teeth for some reason.

So I have to say… look I will not kiss you unless you go brush your teeth… it’s been a week!

Sorry, but it is a LITTLE gross and I really DON’T nag because if I did I would tell him to brush them everyday like he really ought to.